Sneaking Out

Do you leave without saying something to your pet if they are not in the room? Know that the anxiety you are hoping to avoid by not letting them see you leave is still there. It is now shifted to anxiousness around where we have gone. We can help them through the process by telling them “I will be back in a few hours” or by giving them a specific time such as “I will be back at noon or around 5pm.” Doing so lets them know they have been included in the conversation and reduces their anxiety.

The animal beings love being a part of our lives and being part of the conversation takes our relationship to a new level shifting it from talking at them to speaking with them. Putting ourselves in their situation will help us determine which we would prefer. Do we like being talked at or being included in the conversations happening around us. Animals hear everything – they do not always understand our conclusions.

When I am leaving a pet companion visit, I let them know that I love them. I thank them for allowing me to connect, play and learn with them. We are both building our relationship together while learning trust and respect through the visits.

Often the one most challenged by the act of leaving is us. If we have ever felt abandoned in a situation or a relationship, we must go a little deeper and ask who are we sneaking away from our pet(s) or our emotions? Taking a little time to feel into where we experience the situation in our bodies and accepting ourselves in the moment helps us begin the healing process.

This is a way you and your pet(s) can begin opening the doors to communication and building a deeper relationship recognizing them as valued members of our families.