Boundaries and Self-Care
My belief around physical medical conditions is that often the source starts with our thoughts and emotions – and then what we tell ourselves over and over, yet don’t truly release.
With the tremors, I know there is a level of putting others experiences and needs before my own. I know clear boundaries were not instilled as to what I feel that is not mine and the journey since that diagnosis especially in recent years is where the pieces are coming together.
Understanding the depth of being able to feel others’ emotions or in some capacity know that I am picking up their thoughts is another layer of comprehending the experiences. It's like having a superpower without the knowledge that one exists, how to utilize it, how to check yourself for leaks, and how to recognize that the feelings and thoughts are about learning the boundaries that need to be put in place.
Given the process of this awareness continues through an ongoing lesson of:
Recognition
Learning
Feeling into the experience
Placing and speaking up for stronger internal boundaries, and
Understanding where leakage occurs:
within what situations,
with which people and
How to stand within our own power
I am recognizing that often my body will show me through a sensation (ache, pain, heaviness in my gut, numbness or itchiness) or something like an allergic response (redness, burning, rash, soreness, coughing) or the topic repeatedly surfacing for deeper review in a variety of ways that a boundary either through my own passage or via another person or animal friend.
These can also appear for food or ingredients. When too much of a food is taken in, it can show as a skin response which is the body’s boundary between the external and internal or it can appear as a gut or digestive issue based on how well we are receiving and releasing what is coming in.
For me in the last six years, chemicals in ingredients, in food, soap, cleaning products (in the air or on a surface), and even cardboard boxes creates an allergic like response. It’s being aware of what I am feeling, sensing, or experiencing.
Recently, a request that I received from external sources led me to learn that my body interpreted it as a boundary crossed as within days I had a rash appear on my hands which at the time I didn’t associate as being connected.
Over the course of two weeks it progressively became red, dry, peeling and escalated to a heightened hand rash or form of eczema with sore, swollen finger knuckles and red, burning sensations on both hands and both the palms and back side of the hand. As soon as I spoke up for my body, the rash began to disappear, and my hands heal within a day. For the hands/fingers can be synonymous with how we are handling or grasping a situation.
Listening to our bodies can be a key element in learning and standing up for ourselves and putting our best foot forward when it comes to our boundaries whether they are physical, emotional, mental, food, behavioral or spiritual.
Boundaries are important to self-care. Recognizing how an infringement by oneself or another shows up is key. The body is the vehicle that helps us physically keep moving forward through life. When we don’t hear, listen, recognize, understand or speak up for the language of our body, we break down our biggest ally and support system.
How is your body speaking to you?
